ukdaa.blogg.se - Dr shefali the conscious parent

A conscious parent is aware of their own emotional state when in conflict with their child.Instead of being merely the receiver of the parents' psychological and spiritual legacy, children function as ushers of the parents' development.

A conscious parent does not judge a child’s feelings, instead allowing space for their feelings to pass through and validating a child’s experience.

A conscious parent is present and engaged with a child, not just physically but also emotionally.

A conscious parent recognises what stage of development their child is in and sets age appropriate rules, boundaries and expectations.

A conscious parent has boundaries set peacefully with love and respect for the child.

A conscious parent is not a permissive parent.

A conscious parent takes care of their own needs and can self regulate their emotions in a healthy manner so they can then hold space for their child’s big feelings.

A conscious parent strives to ‘respond’ to a child’s needs opposed to reacting.

Understanding that there are big feelings going on behind outward behaviour.

A conscious parent is attuned to the feelings of a child.Not as a “mini me” or a child to live their own desires through. Conscious parenting requires a parent to be in relationship with the child seeing a child separate from themselves.When parents do this they do not allow their child to have their own beliefs, needs or wants which leads a child to feel burdened from a young age whilst trying to live up to their parents ideals and high standards. Parents unconsciously try to live through their own children expecting their children to adopt the same belief system, values and goals in life. Shining light on the parenting patterns they are repeating and passing down whilst acknowledging that many of their own needs were not met in childhood. What Conscious Parenting Isn’tĬonscious parenting isn’t a method or a parenting strategy, more so it is a way of being and requires a parent to deeply look at themselves and their own upbringing. The term “Conscious Parenting” became more well known when Dr Shefali Tsabary ( world-renowned clinical psychologist) appeared on the Oprah show to discuss her book “The Conscious Parent.”Ĭonscious parenting requires you to look beneath the behaviour that a child is displaying, instead striving to meet a child’s needs for connection, helping them with self regulation and being their emotional coach. Often this requires a parent to let go of their own ego, desires, high expectations and heavy burdens to release the child to be exactly who they want to be – to be their authentic selves. Conscious parenting is about being conscious and self aware when interacting and engaging with your children.Ĭonscious parenting is about deeply connecting with the child in front of you and not the child you fantasize about having.